Experience Emotional Health and Freedom Through Forgiveness:

  • Emotional healing

    Those experiencing emotional difficulties like anxiety can experience inner peace through forgiveness.

  • Improved physical health

    When there's a physical cause, forgiving can improve high blood pressure and cardio health.

  • Greater mental health

    People suffering from depression, intense anger, and fears, have shown improvement through forgiveness.

A Bishop Helmsing Institute Year of Mercy course

4Given is a course on learning how to forgive.

Pope Francis announced the coming year (December 8, 2015--November 30, 2016) will be an Extraordinary Jubilee of Mercy.  The Bishop Helmsing Institute is offering a special Year of Mercy course on the theme of forgiveness.

Based on the model developed by Catholic psychologist Dr. Robert Enright, the 4Given course will introduce you to a scientifically tested program of forgiveness designed to benefit you, the forgiver. This program has helped people find freedom from anger, resentment, bitterness, and self-destructive behavior patterns. 

Countless people have experienced emotional freedom through this proven, four-phase process. If you're caught in a maelstrom of emotion and unwanted behavior and are looking for a way out, this course is for you. 

Forgiveness is a process

Research has shown merely saying "I forgive you" is often not enough. The words are spoken, but the feelings return or sometimes remain. You need to undergo a process of understanding those feelings and then taking concrete action.

This course will be will be a practical introduction to the theme of forgiveness in Catholic tradition along with a proven four-step model for implementing forgiveness.   

  • Step 1: Uncovering - Revealing the Wounds in Our Hearts
  • Step 2: Decision - Choosing to Forgive
  • Step 3: Work - Labors of Forgiveness
  • Step 4: Deepening - Discovery and release through Forgiveness



What others are saying: 

"Thought provoking! Made me think and process ideas I would not have on my own."
Dana Gertner

"This course explained a lot. It gave me information and ways to look at situations in a new light. I had never thought about some of the things that were pointed out."
Ora Reyes

"Made me realize my emotions about the hurt and that I am able to work though it with God's grace."
Mary Mathiot

"This course meant a lot to me."
Karen Felber



What forgiveness is and what it isn't

Forgiving is more than: 

  • Accepting what happened
  • Ceasing to be angry
  • Being neutral toward the other
  • Making oneself feel good

Forgiving is not:

  • Condoning or excusing
  • Forgetting
  • Justifying
  • Calming down
  • Pseudo-forgiving

"Forgiving is an act of mercy toward an offender, someone who does not necessarily deserve our mercy. It is a gift to our offender for the purpose of changing the relationship between ourselves and those who have hurt us. Even if the offender is a stranger, we change our relationship because we are no longer controlled by angry feelings toward this person. In spite of everything that the offender has done, we are willing to treat him or her as a member of the human community. That person is worthy of the respect due to every being who shares our common humanity."

Robert Enright, Forgiveness Is a Choice

Currently scheduled at these locations:

4Given is a free course (a freewill offering for the parish may be taken):

  • St. Andrew the Apostle, Gladstone: Thursdays, Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27 (6:30-8:00 pm)

  • Christ the King, Kansas City: Wednesdays, November 9, 16, 30, Dec 7 (6:30-8:00 pm)

  • St Joseph the Worker, Independence: Thursdays, Nov, 17, Dec 1, 8 (6:30-8:00 pm)



More praise for 4Given: 

"Very informative and thought provoking. Scott McKellar is an excellent presenter and very well organized. Thank you for the opportunity to soul search and discuss this very necessary topic."
Regina Irwin

"I enjoyed all of it. I'm glad I learned new ways to cope with injustices and forgiveness. I will use what I learned."
Karen Helmich

"The content and instructor's examples were very helpful. Gave me understanding on how to fit the concepts into daily life and practice."
Laura Hibbs

"Excellent course that can be incorporated into your daily life. Not a quick fix but very much needed to enrich and free you of past burdens and hurts."
Dee Holland

 Experience God’s mercy in your life by learning how to forgive.

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